The Nov. 19 letter, “Hate for Trump has gone too far,” was another installment of a conservative accusing liberals of hating President Donald Trump — hate seemingly defined as anything that challenges the accuser’s beliefs.
I’m a liberal, and I won’t speak for others, but I don't hate Trump. If anything, I pity him for being an emotionally damaged man under a blustering facade. Anyone knowing his dysfunctional childhood could understand how he turned out.
What I hate are his behaviors and apparent attitudes, particularly his seeming need to lie as a way of controlling how people respond to him and of protecting his vulnerable ego. As the saying goes, your beliefs don't make you a better person, your behavior does. Trump's behavior suggests that of a sociopath or malignant narcissist. In any case, I try to hate the sin and love the sinner as much as possible.
In the media recently, Republican politicians have been complaining that State Department officials are turning against Trump. What they actually have been doing is turning toward truth. Trump seems to want everything he says treated as gospel. But as one Democrat put it at the impeachment hearings, Trump is averaging five “Pinocchios” a day — and that’s possibly a conservative estimate.
Disagreeing with another's view doesn't automatically make anyone a liar. Nor does it make anyone treasonous. The tendency for many who feel passionate about their beliefs is to assume the worst of anyone who disagrees with them.
In the heat of passion or anger, we may sometimes project how we feel onto others and assume they feel likewise. Assuming someone hates Trump, for instance, could be based on hatred for Hillary Clinton. That's why it's best to check out one's assumptions by talking directly to others. All one has to lose is one's ignorance and prejudice.