HappinessMaking the choice to be happy.
By: Samantha Salsbury, Sibley Scribe
“The truth about darkness is that it is afraid of light, because it knows that no matter how much darkness exists in the world, light only shines brighter when surrounded by it. A single match in a world of darkness is noticed by all. That’s just the way it is.”
– Greg Jackson
When you think of the typical “bully” it is said that their hate is derived from their own insecurity. If you present yourself as happier, you are almost always seen as a more likeable person, and the chances of you being noticed and seen as a good person go up significantly. But if you spend your life groaning and griping over things that could be changed, you are viewed almost the same way: as someone to groan and gripe about. I believe that hateful people are scared. They are afraid of the person that is happy, because they know that no matter what, their light will be noticed first.
What is a side effect of happiness? Smiling. People who smile tend to be more approachable, and those who spend all of their time frowning and complaining tend to be less approachable, and people are less attracted to being around them, thus making their life seem even worse. Depression goes hand in hand with the philosophy that when it rains, it pours. When you are unhappy about something, be it the way you see yourself, or the way you feel about something, or how you think people look at you, or really anything, your smile disappears... It’s believed that people smile more around people who are smiling and in turn, are happier around people who are happy. What will be accomplished by being unhappy and frowning, and letting your smile disappear? Absolutely nothing good. If you make any effort at all to try and be as kind as possible and smile even a little bit more, the change in the way people view you will not go unnoticed by you and everyone around you. In time, chances are you will be genuinely happier. You will stop feeling alienated, and the world will just seem so much brighter.
By looking unhappy, and like you don’t want to be around anyone at all, you almost immediately turn most people off to the idea of talking to you. Based on this logic: Unhappy = Unapproachable.
Looking at things in a better light helps to improve your mood. Even when things are looking down, there is always something negative to view differently. If you can’t even find a little enjoyment out of anything, and continue to let yourself live like the entire world is against you, then it is not fair of you to complain when the person that chose to be happy gets the spotlight. I am by no means saying that you have control over medical conditions such as depressive disorder, or anxiety disorders, but generalized bad moods every once in awhile can be cured by changing your outlook.
If you have water, food, a bed, and some kind of reasonable shelter, that is more than a lot of people have. Life is a race to happiness. There’s no sense coming in last when you are mentally and emotionally strong enough to do otherwise. Be whatever you wish to be, don’t change yourself to fit any image society has painted for you, and make efforts for yourself to be happy. It will be the greatest impact you can make in your own life. Sadness can take a toll, but happiness is free. It is a whole new year; you don’t need to dwell on the past, so be happy. There is no reason not to, especially when you’re the only one who can control it.